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What You Feel, You Heal

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What do you supress and why? What’s holding you back? What’s standing in the way of your true expression? Is it shame, guilt or fear? What’s the worst thing that could happen if you show the world your true colours? How other people will react, if you speak your mind? If you express your feelings?

For many years, self-love for me equalled self-work. I thought that if I tried hard enough, I’d be better and would love myself more. But this is not love. Love is all encompassing, love is pure presence and the ability to be with what is alive in you here and now, both your light and your shadow.

Love has no expectations. Love is nurturing and full of compassion. She doesn’t judge, instead she offers support. Easier said than done. Society trained us that we should be less like this and more like that, that certain behaviours, ideas or feelings were bad. Hence, we supressed them. Why? Cause as children we needed attachment. We needed our parents to support us, to feed us, to love us. In their own, imperfect way.

We scarified our authenticity. We chose attachment over being true to ourselves. We silenced anything that we thought our parents (or any other significant adults in our live) did not accept. We tried so hard to fit in. We disconnected from our bodies and our hearts.

This was a healthy and valid choice. It helped us to survive, to be fed, loved and supported, we could not do differently, we did our best. And so did our parents. This is not about blame, shame or guilt. This is an opportunity to reconnect with our inner children, offer them love and let them express all these intense feelings they weren’t able to externalise.

Now’s the time. How long will you stay away from yourself? How long will you repeat same vicious unconscious cycles of your childhood trauma? I resonate with the below quote:

“Trauma is a psychic wound that hardens you psychologically and then interferes with your ability to grow and develop. It pains you and now you’re acting out of pain. It induces fear and now you’re acting out of fear. Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you. Trauma is that scarring that makes you less flexible, more rigid, less feeling and more defended.”

Gabor Maté

One of the misconceptions about trauma is that it only happens to others, or that it needs to be really serious, like sexual abuse, physical violence or that it only originates in profoundly dysfunctional families or environments (addictions, war zones, etc.). Yes, this is all trauma, but trauma is also a lot more.

Recently I watched a documentary called “The Wisdom of Trauma” and I loved it! It featured people suffering from trauma (many are or were homeless addicts or ended up in jail), social workers and medical doctor Gabor Maté. I liked the way doctor Maté described addictions: as coping mechanisms, rather than genetic disorders. This film is mind and heart opening, informative and profoundly human. I encourage you to watch it as soon as you can!

I believe that trauma informed society is a healthier society, where we tackle root cause of many issues like drugs, consumerism, or workaholism.

Addictions (including emotional co-dependency), according to Gabor Maté, numb inner pain, caused mostly by childhood difficult experiences (trauma). They provide temporary relief, yet they bring along many challenges: financial, relational, and health-wise. To better understand this concept, watch this short video entitled “How Childhood Trauma Leads to Addiction”.

The only way OUT is IN. The solution lies within your own heart. When supressed emotions come to the surface, you’ll learn how to be with them, instead of going away and searching relief via your usual coping mechanisms. You’ll learn how to be in touch with your body, heart and soul. You’ll learn how to love yourself. All parts of your unique being: the bad, the good and the ugly (according to your own judgment).

Being supported by a professional therapist is vital. They will hold a safe space for you to reconnect with yourself, express what needs to be expressed, learn from it and release it. It’s a deep process, simple yet not easy. It requires trust, commitment and courage. And it’s worth it.

And you, what are you supressing? What parts of you are yearning for your love and need a voice? Become radically honest with yourself. What is alive in you here and now? How do you feel? When did you feel this for the first time? Does this come from your childhood?

Someone wise once said: “the issues are in our tissues”. Supressed emotions stay in our bodies. Expressing and releasing old emotions (we have layers and layers of these, at least me!), frees our bodies. It’s a path to true liberation. And no, once on this journey, you won’t become a monk and experience only peace and joy. Rather you’ll become more human and more connected to your heart and body. You’ll feel more. You’ll become more vulnerable but also stronger. You’ll learn that expressing your feelings is a skill, act of courage and that it’s worth it.

Below you’ll find a poem that I wrote after watching the film. Hope you’ll enjoy it!

Being present to yourself is an act of self-love. Wishing you peace and courage to express what is alive in you! Day in and day out!

Love,
Paulina

Street Art, Paris

Your greatest teachers

The way you cope is beautiful
How you deal with your suffering
Touches me deeply
It feels somehow familiar
We’re all in this together
We’re human species – not machines
There’s no shame
There’s much more space and strength in your heart
Then you think

Your pain does not make you a bad person
You have the right to suffer and the right to heal
Your trauma created a persona
But it’s not the real you
You’re pure, innocent and invincible

Allow life to guide you
Wake up – become radically honest
Do not disconnect anymore
Take one tiny step in the right direction
Trust the process
Go within

Show up for yourself and your kids
They will suffer for sure, c’est la vie
So you’d better teach them
How to embrace their humanity
How not to resist the pain anymore
But rather hold it, hear it, be with it
So that it’s processed and digested fully

This is food for the soul
And nourishment for the heart
Pain and trauma are your greatest teachers
They’ll keep coming back
Until you finally decide to listen

So don’t waist a second
Time’s up
Breathe in, breathe out
Welcome your emotional, vulnerable and bodily nature
Connect with the part of you who needs your love
Mother yourself, be the father you wanted so badly

The hurt and the cure lie both within
You hold the keys to your own prison
Open the door and leap in the dark
The universe will catch you
Let the sun defrost your past
You don’t need to repeat the cycle anymore

And yes, it’s a journey that never ends
So enjoy it and be brave
Trust your inner wisdom
The next step is all you need
Remember – you are a life’s playground
She explores, experiments and discovers herself through you

What remains when resentment, rage and regrets are finally purged?
When the energy is released, cleared and honoured?
Your unique light shines brighter than ever
No longer afraid of your own shadow
You become whole again
This is the sweet perfume of your essence
This is presence
Amen

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“If one has courage, nothing can dim the light which shines from within.“

Maya Angelou

Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor, please consult your healthcare provider, prior to using any of the tips mentioned in the article.

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5 Myths About Anger and Why They Make Me Mad

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I was furious, I yelled at them and called them names. I threw a couple of objects onto the floor and left. It happens to me rarely, yet it did happen recently (mid-May 2021, such a memorable day!). I felt guilty, embarrassed, and I wished I could turn back the hands of time and choose a different response. It was like an emotional hangover, very unpleasant. I took a firm decision: it ain’t gonna happen again! Sounds familiar? Should we throw anger out of the window, ban it and declare it’s guilty of all social and political issues…? I don’t think so. Here are 5 myths about anger.

Street Art - Belleville Paris
Street Art – Belleville, Paris

Myth #1: Anger is useless

Anger, as all emotions, has its place in our lives. Without anger, we wouldn’t be able to protect ourselves, set boundaries, challenge the status quo or fight for our rights. Anger is an energy and all energy can be transformed. We all can turn fury into a force for good:

“If you’re not angry, you’re either a stone, or you’re too sick to be angry. You should be angry. You must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn’t do anything to the object of its displeasure. So use that anger, yes. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it. You talk it. Never stop talking it.” 

Maya Angelou

You have the right to be angry. Use it as fuel and create something new. Support the disadvantaged and the underdog, start a movement or make art, furiously. 😁

Myth #2: Anger is toxic

Anger is a natural physiological and emotional reaction to injustice or threat. Your body knows how to deal with it. So don’t stop it, hide it, or squeeze it. Instead, admit it, feel it, and communicate it, preferably in a more responsible way than I did 😁. Unexpressed or supressed anger is toxic. Pretending that nothing happened and keeping a smile on your face, when your blood is boiling, does not do you any service.

Myth #3: Anger is dangerous

As a kid, I saw adults fighting (verbally, I’m not talking about box ;). They screamed, cursed and hurt each other emotionally. Hence, I linked anger to danger. Maybe this is why it took me ages before I allowed myself to express it. I was afraid to cause harm. I’m still learning how to communicate frustration in an intelligent way and before it gets overwhelming. Anger can be clean and precise. It does not need to be loud, violent or abusive. Yes, getting anrgy in a right way is an Art!

Myth #4: Anger is the opposite of forgiveness

It seems absurd to get mad at the person we’re trying to forgive, yet, “there is no forgiveness without rage”, as says Holocaust survivor Dr. Edith Eger in her interview with Larry King. This incredible woman is a clinical psychologist and lecturer, and she speaks from experience. Other experts back her up. Anger is necessary to forgive:

“One reason why forgiveness can be so difficult is we often believe that in order to find peace through forgiveness, we need to reject our anger. However, the true key to embracing forgiveness and its many benefits actually lies not in rejecting our anger but rather in listening to and understanding our anger as a necessary and useful emotion.”

Michael Friedman, Ph.D. (from an online article “Why We Must Listen to Our Anger to Achieve Forgiveness”)

Angry? Yes, it’s uncomfortable, but you’re on your way to peace. Don’t take shortcuts, feel it, allow it and let it heal you. Please. 💜

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Myth #5: If you want to be spiritual, avoid anger at all costs

As an evolved being, you’ll only experience peace, you’ll be forever grateful, kind to all life forms and filled with love. This is rubbish. You’ll become more aware of your needs, wants, desires and emotions, including fear, sadness or anger. Please don’t transform yourself into a doormat so that people can walk all over you. Loosing yourself in order to please others is not spiritual. Letting others disrespect you isn’t either. As says Anand Mehrotra, author and yoga teacher, when we grow:

“Anger becomes fierceness, we don’t become placid. Some people have this very strange idea that enlightenment is hyper-politeness. This is idiotic”.

Clear, right?! I couldn’t agree more.

What if anger was both natural and necessary? What if it could be transformed into as a force for good? And you, what do you think of anger? How do you channel this powerful energy?

Leave a comment and share this article with all your (furious) friends. Thank you! 😁

Wishing you peace and sense of empowerment,

With love,
Paulina

“I don’t know a perfect person. I only know flawed people who are still worth loving.”

John Green
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Do you prefer ice cream or to scream? Befriend your emotions.

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“Boys don’t cry”, “Pretty girls don’t get angry”, “Shut up and sit”, or “Life’s cruel – you’d better grow a thick skin.” Did you hear those words as a child? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us learn that vulnerability is a form of weakness. Later, in a work environment, we discover that expressing our emotions is unprofessional. Hence, we numb our feelings: we go shopping, get busy, drink too much Piña Colada, eat too many chocolate cookies or French fries, have sex and then a cigarette, or any combination of these. 😊

And what if vulnerability was not only part of human experience, but also a gift, and a sign of strength?

As soon as I started to earn money, I booked therapy sessions. It helped me a lot. I felt safe, heard and… impatient. Often, I was crying and felt frustrated: “I’m spending my salary to sit here and cry, when will it end?”. My therapist kept saying “It’s ok, we have time, do you want a tissue?”

20+ boxes of tissues later, during another session, as she was smart, bold and a real pro, she provoked me and pissed me off. It was the first time that I felt anger physically, with such precision. I felt heat moving from my stomach up to my throat. I heard myself saying a firm and loud ‘NO’. She did it to wake me up. Before that, I was unable to feel anger. Sadness was more comfortable, I got used to it. Rage? Gosh, such a dangerous and foreign territory!

Recently however, when I felt sad, angry and frustrated, I closed myself in the bathroom (safest space ever!), took a deep breath and screamed so loud (twice!), that I was surprised that no one called the police. It was worth it. Immediate relief and such a sense of power. Priceless. I respect my neighbours but sometimes (and not too often), you just need to let it out. 😊

If you book a ThetaHealing® session with me, I’ll invite you to go to your childhood memories. I’ll offer a safe space, where you’ll re-connect with your emotions: feel, express and release them. You’ll learn how to take care of the younger version of you, how to mother yourself. With practice, you’ll resist your emotions less. You’ll be less judgmental, gentler and more compassionate with yourself. You’ll be less triggered by other people’s emotions, able to offer them support and empathy, while protecting your own energy. And you’ll accept your own vulnerability.

Modern societies train us to hide our emotions and value intellect instead. Knowledge, logic and certificates are important, yet they’re not sufficient. If you shut your heart down and live only from your head, you’ll get lost. You’ll be easily manipulated. You’ll feel inadequate.

Brené Brown, brilliant researcher on vulnerability, in one of her TEDx talks, says that we cannot numb our emotions selectively. When we avoid anger, shame, sadness or grief, we also diminish our capacity to feel joy, passion, enthusiasm or love. When we wear a thick armour, we fall into perfectionism, extremism, or addictions.

One of my favourite Parisians, an amazing osteopath, said to me after a consultation during which I cried: “Emotions are part of your humanity”. Sounds true, right?!

You’re enough. You don’t need anything or anyone to complete you. You’re a human, not a robot (unless I’m not aware of something😊) and it’s normal for you to experience emotions daily. Yes, they do bring challenges, but also make life juicy. Would you like to release the below limiting ideas that, if you express how you feel:

  • it will hurt others;
  • it will scare them;
  • it will make you unlovable or you’ll get rejected;
  • it will make you weak;
  • you’ll lose control;
  • you’ll get lost in despair forever;
  • it will separate you from others;
  • you’ll end up alone?

What would be a more beneficial outlook on emotions? You’re your own healer. When you’re authentic, you’re making it easier for others to do the same. Sharing how you feel, will free you:

“Talking about your pain, fears, concerns, or regrets will not lower your vibration, tangle your chakras, upset your spirit guides, or cause you to attract more of the same. Beyond all doubts, fears, and superstitions, sharing exists as one of the most direct ways to move repressed energy and release all that is ready to be healed through the words only your deepest hurt can convey. You may not feel like the most capable version of yourself when allowing your hurt to speak, but you will step into greater alignment with your inner wellspring of authenticity, where you are free to realize – it’s not a matter of dwelling on what you’ve done, but how boldly you own the wisdom gained.”

Matt Kahn

Be tender with yourself and others. Open your heart a little bit more today. Vulnerability is a sign of strength. Embrace your emotions and express them when talking to a trusted friend (or mum, mums are the best! 😉), through poetry, painting, dance or music…

I don’t encourage you to disclose everything to everyone. Please keep your boundaries strong and be mindful of the context. You’ll not talk in the same way, when in an office, or, when chatting with your bestie over tea… Be flexible and remember: being aware of how you feel and expressing it, is good for you!

In the comments below, answer the following questions, someone will be inspired by your words:

  • Are you comfortable with expressing your emotions or do you find it challenging?
  • What emotions do you experience most often?
  • Which emotions you’re struggling with (if any), and if yes, why?

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Take care and remember: you’re precious, special and strong!

With love,
Paulina

“May we spend less time correcting and more time connecting… with ourselves and those around us.”

Matt Kahn

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Wishing you a magic New Year!

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“And now let us welcome the new year, full of things that never were.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

How your 2019 have been so far? Mine was dynamic and intense. Maybe my outbursts of laughter or tears will never stop? Looking at my beautiful mum, I may have inherited a gene making my mood dance like a crazy unicorn. 😀

I wish us all a wonderful New Year and…

The courage to be true to ourselves
To not seek approval outside of our own hearts
To follow our instincts
To keep faith – always – especially when it’s hard
To live fully, fiercely, intensely
To live well
To love with our whole hearts
To commit to what matters and re-commit every day, in spite of having no guarantees
To take risks and be brave
To own both our strengths and shadows
To express our emotions, to feel and honour them
To be gentle with ourselves and other beings
To enjoy space, to declutter, to remove the non-essential
To remember that nothing and no one belongs to us and yet we belong to everything
To value our relationships and people in our lives
To go for our dreams, one step at a time
To create and build
To explore more of this beautiful place (new territories, cultures, tastes, smells, books, songs, ah!)
To believe that we are enough, deeply loved and that life celebrates itself through us
To grow, learn and remain innocent, pure, curious and fresh in spirit
To remain in peace and remember to breathe, when things are turbulent and tough
To flourish and to shine
To let our souls guide us
To have fun in the process
To en-JOY and dance
To live, feel and be here and now, unapologetically, truly, humbly.

The older I get, the more I honour vulnerability, both in me and others:

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” ~ Brené Brown

Fuerza, la familia – we are all in this together! Have a bright and blessed New Year! 😀

 

“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” ~ Lao Tzu

 

“Love is a living, breathing thing. There is no need to force it to grow in a particular direction. If we start by being easy and gentle with ourselves, we will find it is just there inside of us, solid and healing.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

“Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.” ~ Allen Ginsberg

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This time again – my birthday!

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« The birth of all things is weak and tender; and therefore we should have our eyes intent on beginnings. » ~ Michel de Montaigne

 

Hola la familia! 25th of October was my birthday. So grateful for all the lovely wishes, it made me feel loved and special! 😀 I had a delicious dinner and lots of extraordinary red wine with 2 beautiful ladies. Ah! These few past days were intense, both cheerful and challenging. Full moon played its role here, I guess! As every year, it is now time to wrap up, celebrate and make space for the new!

Life is short and a gift that we unpack, create and allow daily. I have my ups and downs, at times I feel vulnerable, overstressed or lonely, but with age (it really sounds like I am getting older!), I feel so much more at peace with myself, others and life itself. I have dreams and a clear direction. I am in love and learning to love deeply and well (this one may take me a few life times!).

I am grateful for sweet presence of beautiful and inspiring people around me. I like my job, most of the time, typically after 10 am when my brain starts to wake up! 😀 I feel supported by friends, family and wise people who I call, when trouble comes. I learn new things every day. I know what makes me feel alive and I try to do it often: dance, movement, art, poetry, music, languages (Arabic and Spanish – may God grant me with patience and discipline to learn them slowly but surely!), nurturing open interactions, travel and spiritual inquiries!

I try to keep balance between some sort of positive routine (security – yes, I need you!) and being spontaneous, adventurous and a little crazy (I got it after my one and only mum). Revolutions are not part of my temper but I can feel in my bones that something is waking up and this New Year will bring some fresh new stuff. Curious what will come my way. I have some ideas, but it is better not to know, surprises are good. 😀

Recently, when I had an intense, sad and a desperate lonely moment, I promised myself to listen to my soul (sounds strange, but this is what came up!). When it feels right in my heart, then it is probably the best thing to do. Please wish me courage. Vive la folie douce! Love to all of you. And love to me too, indeed, joyful gentle love is the best soul food available in store, à volonté, olé! 😀

Please see below a poem I wrote recently. I value space and emptiness more and more. They are so pure and liberating, hope you will enjoy!

Love,
Pau

 

« I have a great curiosity to see new things, but not to own them. It’s very peaceful this way, and one of the nice things about getting older. » ~ Lee Radziwill

 

South of Spain.

Miss emptiness

I fear you
I honour you
I want you
Please feel welcome
Come, come, come to me
Be my guest
Or rather allow me to be yours
For a brief cup of tea
Let me feel
Your freedom
Lightness of being
Innocence of now

 

Take everything
Remove all the layers
Wants, desires, fears, attachments
Labels, illusions and aspirations
Put everything to the sacred fire
Let it burn, burn, burn
Let it go, go, go
So that I can simply be
In this vast spaciousness
In this pure openness
In here and now

 

I am on my way home
Leaving my suitcase behind
No keys, no wallet, no passport
I am naked and my heart is open
Ready to jump into the abyss
Of no-thing
I am afraid – deep down
I know that life will catch me
I trust you miss emptiness
You are so dense with life
Your dance is so full of light
You are breathing yourself in and out
In an endless wind of joy

 

Blue sky. Poland.

« My witness is the empty sky. » ~ Jack Kerouac

Belleville. Paris.

 “One just needs a little alertness to see and find out: life is really a great cosmic laughter.” ~ Osho

Art in Paris.

 “Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand, relax. If you relax it comes, if you relax it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it.” ~ Osho

 

My lovely sisters and I. Poland.

 “Creativity is the greatest rebellion in existence.” ~ Osho

Nice sound to finish with. I love it. It feels like warm sunny wind on my skin and make me want to travel far away! 😀

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L’interview Skype avec Nina Caniac – praticienne en hypnose de soin quantique de Dolores Cannon

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« Vous avancez parmi ces choses pour voir que c’est en vous que le choix réside, cela doit se produire en vous. C’est en vous que vous faites votre nouvelle ou votre ancienne Terre. Afin de créer votre réalité comme vous la voulez. » – Dolores Cannon

 

Hola Amigos !

J’ai la joie de partager avec vous une nouvelle interview avec une belle personne inspirante !

Ancienne illustratrice des livres pour enfants, Nina Caniac pratique aujourd’hui l’hypnose de soin quantique de Dolores Cannon (QHHT). Elle s’est aussi formée à l’hypnose d’introspection d’Aurelio Mejía. Elle ne cesse d’approfondir ses compétences et commence à créer sa propre méthode de thérapie. Elle déborde d’énergie, irradie la bienveillance et est persuadée que « la peur n’est qu’une illusion qui empêche d’avancer ».

Regardez la vidéo en ayant le cœur et l’esprit ouverts, nous parlons extra-terrestres, vies antérieures, jeunes versus vieilles âmes, anges, etc. La spiritualité est un sujet intime et chacun possède son système de croyances qui lui est propre. L’objectif de cette interview est de vous présenter la vision originale de Nina. Vous pouvez aussi le percevoir comme une métaphore. En effet, de nombreux exemples tirés de ses séances d’hypnose sont un résultat d’un dialogue que ses clients entretiennent avec leur moi profond/subconscient, dans un état modifié de conscience.

Ayant fait une séance avec Nina, tout au début de son parcours de praticienne d’hypnose, je peux témoigner : ce que j’ai vu m’a surprise, touchée et ouvert le cœur. Et je ne sais toujours pas quoi en penser ! Mais est-ce réellement important ? La vie est un grand mystère et heureusement. Enfin, tout « voyage » dans la dimension inconsciente et irrationnelle de notre être a un objectif bien pragmatique : nous permettre d’avoir des clefs pour être plus en paix avec nous-mêmes et les autres, vivre bien ici et maintenant, s’ancrer dans le corps et oser ouvrir son cœur un peu plus chaque jour. Je vous laisse découvrir !

 

Voici la trame de l’interview :

  1. Parle-nous de ton parcours. Comment tu es devenue praticienne de l’hypnose de soin quantique (QHHT) ?
  2. Comment s’est passée ta transition entre le métier d’illustratrice et ta vocation de praticienne de QHHT ?
  3. En quoi consiste la méthode de QHHT – restrictions, pour qui, etc. ?
  4. Les étapes d’une séance d’hypnose selon la méthode QHHT.
  5. Est-ce qu’on se souvient de ce qui s’est passé lors d’une séance ou non ?
  6. Idée reçue sur l’hypnose : « je n’ai aucun contrôle sur ce qui se passe – je risque de me faire manipuler » – vrai ou pas ?
  7. Si je reste conscient pendant la séance, ça veut dire que l’hypnose n’a pas marché ?
  8. Si je suis très cérébral, je n’arriverai pas à lâcher prise donc rentrer dans l’hypnose ?
  9. Quelles personnes viennent vers toi et avec quels types de questions ? Exemples de transformations.
  10. Comment les sujets abordés ont évolué ? Moins de travail sur les vies passées et plus de reconnexion à soi ici et maintenant.
  11. Jeunes et vielles âmes – qu’est-ce que tu en penses ?
  12. « Petits nouveaux » – les personnes qui ont moins de 10 vies sur Terre.
  13. Le rôle des « petits nouveaux » / la génération qui arrive.
  14. Evolution de la Terre – nous vivons des temps intéressants, c’est un privilège d’être ici !
  15. Santé est une décision. L’hypnose permet de comprendre la cause de la maladie et son message donc de guérir.
  16. Pour faire un travail sur soi – il vaut mieux être seul ou en couple ?
  17. Tu es en train de développer ta propre méthode – parles-en un peu !
  18. Où est-ce qu’on peut trouver les informations sur toi, ta méthode, comment te contacter ?
  19. Un message/un dernier mot à ceux qui nous regardent ?

 

« Nul besoin de croire dans les vies intérieures, l’histoire vécue en hypnose peut nous servir d’une belle métaphore. » – Nina Caniac

Préférences de Nina :

  • Citation : « La peur n’est qu’une illusion qui empêche d’avancer » – auteur inconnu
  • Livre : « Le conte chaud et doux des chaudoudoux » – livre pour enfants de Claude Steiner (avec un beau message qui plaira aussi aux adultes !)
  • Film : série « Sense8 » (la bande-annonce donne des frissons !)

Pour aller plus loin :

« La réalité n’est qu’une illusion, bien que très tenace. » – Albert Einstein

Curieuse de savoir…

  1. Qu’est-ce que cela vous inspire ?
  2. Quelles sont vos expériences des états modifiés de conscience/l’hypnose ?

 

Merci de votre feedback e à très bientôt !

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Commitment or somewhere between trust and let go

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« Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes. » ~ Walt Whitman

I wrote the below piece some time ago. It still touches me deeply. My relationship with commitment is ambiguous. I am full of paradoxes. I want to build, I want long term goals, stability and, at the very same time, I cherish freedom, spontaneity and space for new adventures. I celebrate life exactly as it is here and now and I aim high, both for myself and others. Needless to say it is a little bit chaotic from time to time! 🙂 Playing with this complexity is a tricky game. Balance is a myth. We are all work in progress. As long as we grow, move forward and make adjustments, all is fine. I have no answers or tips. I believe life is a mystery and we all learn through experience rather than intellect. Before, I was trying to stop the pain, hide from the darkness that I could sense coming from a big black hole inside me. Now, I let myself go more and more. I trust the process, my guts and my vulnerability. Thanks God there is dance, music, sun, wind, daylight, water, poetry, art, laughter and warm hearts around me. And there is chocolate. Someone has planned the whole experience pretty well. 🙂

“Love so deeply that even the darkness feels welcomed.” ~ Rune Lazuli

 

Somewhere between trust and let go

I feel grateful and at peace.
It is good to be committed to a relationship, a job or a company.
It is good to be committed to one’s own growth, desires, needs, projects, dreams and hopes.
It is good to be committed to oneself, to here and now, to life.
Not for as to control, possess or improve.
But to grow, nurture, accept and thus fully enjoy, celebrate and cherish.
The one and only thing that will occur for sure is change.
So let’s appreciate what happens to us now. It shall pass.
So let’s commit, in spite of uncertainty, without attachment to a specific result, just for the sake of love.
So let’s move gently with the flow, and enjoy the now, and the new.
So let’s have some fun, even though there will be pain too.
This is the price of living passionately.
This is the price of commitment.
And there will be sweet and spicy surprises too.
We have come full circle. The vicious or the virtuous one?
A matter of perspective.

 

“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” ~ Osho

 

“This is going to sound crazy. Say yes to everything. Accept all offers. Go along with the plan. Support someone else’s dream. Say « yes »; « right »; « sure »; « I will »; « okay »; « of course »; « YES! » Cultivate all the ways you can imagine to express affirmation. When the answer to all questions is yes, you enter a new world, a world of action, possibility, and adventure.” ~ Patricia Ryan Madson

 

“Love me when I am rain, hold me when I am fire.” ~ Rune Lazuli

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I don’t need you (to)

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Dear Friends,

Long time no speak, happy to be back and wising you All a lovely 2018!

Please see below a poem and a few quotes from Rune Lazuli, a young female poet whose words go straight to my heart, she is so inspiring and I love her bitter sweet, authentic style. She is on Instagram and Facebook. You may want to check out her work!

Best Wishes and have fun! 😀

Love,

Pau

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I don’t need you (to)

I don’t need you to be perfect

I find it sexy when you do not know

How to answer my stubborn questions

I find it charming when you doubt

And show your scars

I don’t want long-term promises

Or big beautiful words

I want patience

I want presence

I want prayer

I want commitment to here and now

And authentic joyful

Bitter-sweet chaos

I don’t search for a perfect equation

I accept uncertainty

Provided that there is aliveness

That there is movement

That there is total acceptance

And an open heart, especially when it hurts

I want us to blossom somewhere

In between right or wrong

Black or white

In the graceful clumsy dance

Of two souls

Who accidentally looked into each other’s eyes

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“Your strength is measured in your ability to smile.” ~ Rune Lazuli

 

“To be a poet is to be wildly vulnerable.

It is to comfortably reveal your most violent scars.”

Rune Lazuli

 

“The way in which you choose to heal is beautiful.” ~ Rune Lazuli

“We are the granddaughters of the witches they were not able to burn.” ~ Unknown

To finish with style, one of my favourite songs ever, enjoy! 😉

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Where I come from (!!)

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“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” ~ Alan Alda

My home city – Warsaw. Poland.

To everyone who has ever left something dear to their heart

I welcomed your first scream
First breath
First look into your parents’ eyes
Filled with joy and wonder
I taught you how to write, read and count (on yourself)
I nourished you and sang you sweet lullabies
So that you could enter the kingdom of colourful soft dreams
You grew beautifully under my wings
You fell in love for the first time
You suffered and became stronger
You discovered deep blue sea and enjoyed its powerful fresh waves
You looked in awe at the most magnificent
Mountains covered with vibrant autumn leaves
I offered you your first job opportunity
And put excellent teachers on your path
Who ignited passion for foreign lands and languages

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And then you abandoned us
To pursue joy abroad
You betrayed both your ancestors and I
You left your parents’ comfortable home
And were gone, once and for all
Into the wild and gorgeous (oh là là) land
“I am sorry” – you say somewhat sad
Even though you owe me every-single-thing
And will never repay your debts
My little sweetheart
As long as there is spark in your eyes
And fire in your belly
As long as you love intensely
And carry me in your heart
With humble gratitude
You have my blessings
I gave you roots and wings
So please use both wisely
And travel foolishly if this is your soul’s calling
Remember to call your parents
Not only when you are lost or sad
You naughty nomadic curious spirit

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I will always be there for you
Like an old beautiful peaceful tree
You are welcome any time
To rest in my arms and whisper your stories
With your funny foreign accent and weird wording

Love,
Pau-land

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“Home is where the heart can laugh without shyness.” ~ Vernon Baker

View from my parents’ house. Warsaw.

“In a forest of a hundred thousand trees, no two leaves are alike. And no two journeys along the same path are alike.” ~ Paulo Coelho

Countryside near my grandparents’ house.

“All our wisdom is stored in the trees.” ~ Santosh Kalwar

tree of life
Tree of life.

Nice Polish song – old but gold! 😀

Another Polish song – a little more nostalgic – I love it, hope you will enjoy. 😀

If you are unsure, whether to visit Poland, watch the below short video! 😀

More on my home country, please visit and check it on your own!

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Bittersweet transitions

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“To exist is to dare to throw oneself into the world.” ~ Simone de Beauvoir

Dears,

Life is seasonal, impermanent and unpredictable. Simple and obvious, yet not always easy! I wrote this poem some time ago, while I was going through a transition phase. Back to square one: more changes are ahead of me! I feel happy-sad, grateful and curious. I trust that life will bring me more beautiful surprises and that the best is yet to come. Or rather: the best and only way is to enjoy here and now to the fullest, until you feel the urge to move again. It is like a dance, shall we? 😀

Love,
Pau

“I love rainstorms… the thunder, lightning, wind, all of it. So much going on at once, so many emotions… just like me.” ~ April Mae Monterrosa

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In between moments

When you leave xyz behind
Saying “merde” and “merci”
(or the other way round)
And slowly but surely
You open the door
To the wild emptiness
Where there is no thing
Only nothing
Pure being
No projects, no intention, no tension
Joyful, unpredictable NOW
Some wishes and hopes
Loosely attached to your open heart
You let yourself be burned
By the caring transition fire
And then you allow the fresh shower of sorrow
To cool you down a little
You clean, declutter and surrender
You have no choice
But to jump in trust
Eyes wide open
You are ready
To let the old go
And slowly let the new
Sink in nicely
You can rest now
And have a soft
(Or a hard) drink*
You simply are
Experiencing, expressing and allowing
LIFE
Cheers!

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*Let’s say Polish vodka!

 

“Honour the space between no longer and not yet.” ~ Nancy Levin

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As always – BIG thank you for reading, sharing and for your precious feedback! 😀

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